WOMEN
things, i think of them.
there are voices revolutionizing about women rights. the place where i live, the talks i engage, the radio channels and in the sphere of substack. there’s a rise of women emotions and needs.
this essay, is just a perception of mine about the women. i might be wrong, I might be right, i might be personal or very common. atlast this is my lens of perception, not the whole truth.
i think most of them, has a hate idea towards marriage. marriage is something basic and fundamental theory on evolution, but it had also made a clip to wings. an understanding marriage is essential. most of the women, don’t really like the idea of marriage, i think it is because of the suppression of their dreams and happiness, and also by the patriarchy culture.
women get married also because of their family’s force. they says “you must get married to be safe.” i think this is so irrelevant because a women, should feel safe as much as a men. when it comes to humanity we are all humans, but when it comes to power and society we are men and women and we have separate rights.
i think a women has a very dignified role here. i think a lot of the women just talks. i mean they say this and that but are they really doing something on that? are they taking actions or just in the talk?
the divorce rates across the decades has been rising. in many asian and european countries it has been significantly on higher levels. it is because of the women’s being equally compatible as men, as they are given rights to work. i have seen workplaces giving more priority to women who is not married than the one who is married.
this compatible is not only because of education, as this is the strongest force what is more amazing than education is their own will to communicate and making meaningful bonds.
humans are social animals, not only because they talk but because they seek refuge in human connection. the sense of belonging is something very notable for living. a women who has varies connection towards her workplace and the home place she’s living as a very higher rate of being stronger.
as in marriage, the parents of the gender raise very differently. for me atleast it seems so— a men is let out, forced to form connection and was meant to learn vigorous sports and entertainment. but for a women, she is good when she knows the home and stay safe inside. a men is learnt to be safe but a women is kept safe. this one of the major concern of women being suppressed towards male domination.
women should learn to be safe for being as they are. you don’t compete towards men. you compete to be yourself as like an artist who compete themselves to show their arts. i think a women and an artist who fights for life are the same. you both fight because you both got something worth living for.
it is important for the parents to believe their daughters. or the coins should flip. the daughters should be strong enough to make their parents believe, she will be alright without marriage, if she doesn’t like. she should talk openly saying believe me, i can be alone, if you are scared about how society sees you, just say, my daughter will be fine alright and she doesn’t likes to get married.
our parents are more scared towards society. this is the truth. once you become an adult, a family person. that’s it. the search of identity and validation, respect and dignity goes far.
it is time to be confident rather being kept safe. it’s important to learn defense, not because you will be attacked but because to gain a confidence. it is important to educate well, dress well not because you will get a job, but because you are secured and confident about your life. it is important to make social connections, so you feel confidence in the belonging.
dressing is very important. i think dressing sense is your choice, but to be protected by yourself is also a choice. there’s always lust, always greed wherever you go. a gold is not available on the shallow surfaces, it is covered well under the soil. your skin gold, it is not for everyone’s eyes to see you through. a very formal dressing can make someone scare you or gives them the distance.
learn emergency tricks, learn psychology, how women theft happens, how people abduct, learn safety measures, learn facts about safety. everything. the more you know about a confusion, the more clarity you gain.
in the western culture, people date. i think it's good because i date to marry. i wanted to know you completely before giving you half of my life, i can't adjust but i can accept you if you are good. most of the people never had the chance to know their partner, they just married off and after marriage things became like war. life became adjusting and stressful. it’s okay to date, but always keep the numbers low.
men do get raped and mentally abused by women. wherever there’s men there is danger. whenever there is stronger people who wants you for lust, there is danger. but don’t just sit inside your home, come out knowing how to kill peoples.
i have seen men in sufferings. it is not always about the women but always about someone who is not mentally aware. there are things, you must acknowledge before getting into the facts, and this is one of them.
I disagree that dressing part, like even if a women is completely covered, wearing a good outfit, yet she gets raped. It is not about dressing or age nor gender, but about how this world and this society killed the value of dignity!! No man is safe and no women was ever safe!! I agree with you, but babies getting raped is not something that should be measured through gender roles. I hate when women and men fight like seriously rape is rape regardless of the gender, so start doing something about it rather victimizing male or female, one should always feel safer in their own country, but sadly that doesn't happen anywhere. Yeah lust is real, male fragile ego too!! I think women hate the concept of marriage more because of how men's mentality is like see abuses, marital rape is being normalized since decades and now women are more aware of it, hence they know they can be without a man. I think men somehow need a women, but a women always can fly and shine alone. I'm glad you wrote this and I just added what I felt, but I am not someone who follows the crowd, I think like me, hence that makes me different and this is how I've felt reading your article
The idea of marriage to women has been introduced as a ticket to freedom. Before marriage a woman isn't 'allowed' to do as she wishes. They're told that "once you get married, your husband will 'let you' do this." Women have seen their parents' marriage growing up. They've seen how their mothers have sacrificed their whole life. A woman is scared to end up like her mother, and as harsh as it sounds it is the truth. A woman is terrified of all that their mothers had to go through. On top of that if a woman ever experiences a toxic relationship, her idea of love gets tainted. Her expectations rise on all levels- she doesn't want to be treated badly, she wants love only if it doesn't belittles her worth. And so many women end up hating the idea of marriage, but if a man were there to break those patterns her father had created with her mother, and treats her well, loves her with no ill intentions, I think that will be a successful marriage. Because the man will be willing to be the husband, instead of only expecting her to be the wife. And yes all humans regardless of gender go through this. Patriarchy is hatred towards women as well as men. Men will be hundred times happier once they stop being trapped by patriarchy. Anyways, on a side note, I did convince my parents that I'm capable of living alone and now they're coming around it, slowly but still. We do, women do all they can about it. Some more than the others, but they do if and when they realise that they're worth way more. Btw good write! I couldn't stop myself from sharing my thoughts.